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Yeah, so, it’s time for me to vent.  Get ready for it…..  here comes the typical single parent tirade against the absent parent who contributes nothing toward the child’s well-being, so if you want to skip out, that’s the summary.  If not, then here ya go….

My sweet, wonderful, beautiful, caring, demonic daughter is 12 years old, if you didn’t already get that from previous postings.  She is smart as all hell, and has a great personality, and I don’t mean that to say that she’s ugly, just to say that she can give and take a good, playful round of sh!t talking.  I thoroughly enjoy her when she’s not on my last nerve. 

That being said, she truly loves her father.  She holds the man on a pedestal like none other I’ve seen before.  In her eyes, the man hung the moon, the stars, the sun, and was standing next to God when he said, “let there be light”.  What the Bible doesn’t tell you is that baby daddy said, “yeah.  do it, man.”  My point is this:  She idolizes her father, and he can do NO WRONG.  What the heck is that all about??? 

For single parents everywhere, I must take this stand.  We are the ones day in and day out teaching the kids how to operate in the real world.  We are teaching them right from wrong and correcting the mis-turns along the way.  We are spending our last dime on milk to make sure they can eat their cereal before going to school every morning, and we are the ones who have to dry their tears when the absent parent doesn’t follow through on their promises to come visit, or to take them to the park, or even to CALL them.  We do that.  We are NOT perfect, and I’ll be the first person to admit this, but dammit, they need to step up.  Since when is it okay to let people down?  Employers don’t allow that.  You have deadlines, you meet them.  The government doesn’t allow that.  You have taxes, pay them.  Girlfriends and boyfriends don’t allow that.  You mess up, you’re dumped.  WHY is it okay to let your own KIDS down????? 

The poor little people don’t understand that you’re just a messed up individual and don’t really give a damn about anyone but yourself.  They love unconditionally and continue to believe that you don’t mean to be jerkoff.  I, on the underhand, have understood these facts for a number of years, but I DO NOT attempt to open my daughter’s eyes.  Does that make me a bad parent?  I encourage her to love her father, and I continue to wipe her tears, but I’m not going to shatter her fairytale image of her dad.  I figure she will one day reach an understanding that he’s not worth the effort, but it’s not a conclusion that I need to draw for her.  She’s a smart girl and that will be a painful lesson, but heck, she’s been learning it all of her life, poor thing.