Sex, Sex, Sex - I guess

SEX-INSTRUCTOR-SMALL_1.jpg Sex ED image by kyleehenney

Apparently, lots of people search the web for items that contain the word “Sex” - either google, yahoo, msn, however you search….Even wordpress blogs - people want to know about sex.  Are they looking for a how-to blog?  Or do they want to know about your deepest, darkest desires and abnormalities? 

I’d like to know about the weirdness.  For some reason I am intrigued by people’s strange little quirks.  What is it you like to do that’s all kinds of freaky-deaky and you wouldn’t tell a soul about?  Funny enough, you can create a false name and comment here if you’d like.  I think that’s the reason this word is so often searched - I’m not the only person in the world who likes to see other peoples’ kink.  I’ll be honest about it - I don’t mind checking out some horribly scripted movies that involve a lot of skin from time to time.  I don’t use that as a means to pass my time in general, but it does hold a certain interest for me.  Yes, it objectifies women and yes, it plays into the culture of women having no power - I get that.  I’m really not a feminist though, and I enjoy a good time just as much as the next girl.  Not the Girls Gone Wild girls - not so much, but the average, American girl who likes to get raunchy from time to time - that kind of good time…hehehe. 

If you believe that’s a bad thing, I’m sorry you’re not in touch with your inner raunch, and I honestly hope you begin to accept your body and other bodies as a part of nature and that you learn to enjoy it as much as possible before it’s either burnt into oblivion or rotting in a deep hole with bugs feasting on its every nutrient.  Seriously.  Have some fun. 

Heck, if you’re married, that’s even better - have your partner take part in the fun.  Get some toys or some fluid-like substance to enhance the fun times.  Buy some books.  Buy some DVDs.  Consult a professional.  Okay - not sure I’d do that one, but learning your husband’s/wife’s body is just as important in a marriage as learning their mind.  Plus it’s just good exercise.  You can sweat without leaving the comfort of your own bed.  Gotta love that.  Try out a few different positions.  Missionary gets old, and that whole roll over and jump on top thing gets tired too - reverse it and see what happens, throw the ol’ doggy into the mix… whatever you do - have some fun, don’t take it too seriously, and don’t be afraid to laugh (as long as you’re not being personal). 

That being said, google away - sex, sex, sex….  be careful though - those darn pop ups can be a pain…..

song chart memes

Another little ditty from www.graphjam.com….  If you love music, there are some great charts.

Love & Sex

Hmmm…. recurring phenomenon throughout America?

I found this secret on Postsecret.com and it struck a chord with me, particularly because I am familiar with a number of people who initiate sex in an effort to find love.  I believe this happens more often than not anymore, with all the phone hookup lines, the web-based dating, and sex-sites that have popped up over the last ten or more years. 

The lines have blurred.  On television, we tell our children it’s okay to go out and party it up and take home a random stray, and possibly start a relationship based on that.  We hammer into their heads that a hookup is cool through the music they listen to and the images we give them in magazines, television, internet, and any other media outlet you can imagine. 

I’m not above all this.  I’ve met individuals on the computer before and I’ve made friends with some of them.  They may know intimate details of my life without ever having laid eyes on me.  Do I give them my social security number and home address?  No, but I have had conversations with them, which could or could not have lead to any other kinds of interactions.  Scary thought, isn’t it?  This is the world our children are growing up with.  There are dangers very different than what we were exposed to as children growing up in the ’80s and ’90s.

The idea of love and a happy ever after is taught to us as children.  In all the story books, there’s a princess and her prince, whisking her off to a wonderful life of grandeur and babies for ever and ever, the end.  They are already receiving mixed signals.  They see the family they are growing up with, which could include one or both parents, alcoholism, drug abuse, physical abuse, negativity, molestation, or any number of maladaptive behaviors, but we tell them that one day they, too, could live happily ever after. 

No wonder they start off having sex and take it from there.  No wonder most of us do the same thing.  There are few role models who can show you that: 1- they never had sex before marriage, 2- this strategy still works, 3- the family can stay together through thick and thin.  It’s just not a very good bet for young people today.

The confusion between sex and love is so widespread, you have to wonder if it’s truly a way of life any more.  It is difficult to get to know people on an intimate level, and when you do, the sex invariably follows.  Self-restraint is really not emphasized, though they do push abstinence in schools. 

I guess all I can do is remember to give my daughter lots of hugs and kisses, and remind her that she doesn’t need to have sex with somebody to be considered a wonderful human being.  She needs to honestly feel that for herself, though, and I can only hope to give her the tools with which to realize it.  Hopefully I will have more power over that than the television and music videos.

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